Black dating in london england
I often wonder if the ‘Black women are aggressive’ trope is hindering our progress on the dating scene, and it is at times demoralising because their interest rarely comes to fruition.
I recently ask a Black male friend why he’s dated every other ethnic group except his own, and he said that hasn’t found a ‘decent’ Black woman yet.
When I’m with my Black girlfriends, we socialise in bars and clubs which are multicultural, and our biggest complaint about non-Black men is their lack of transparency when talking with us.
They may give compliments and drop hints, and even though we believe we are showing reciprocal interest, numbers are never requested from the men or exchanged.
The perception of the UK as a multicultural hub is true, but this is reflected poorly in the media in terms of the representation of Black women.
On the other hand, Jem, a fellow Teacher disagrees slightly with Ally and says that like me she isn’t short of attention from Black men, but they aren’t on our wavelength in terms of education, job or outlook.
Like many other sisters I know, Jem would rather be in a relationship with a Black man, but realises that she may be waiting forever if she rules out everyone else.
But things are thankfully changing for Black women.
It is now estimated that 48 percent of Black Caribbean men and 34 percent of Black Caribbean women are in mixed-race relationships in the UK.